The Uncorked Conversation Podcast with Allyson Scammell
Ep #37: Playing in the Magic, Staying in the Real
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Episode number 37.
Hello and welcome to the Uncorked Conversation, a podcast for soul guided passion filled women entrepreneurs who want to uncork big magic in life and business without burning out. We’ll get to the truth of how to uncork our core gifts, the ones we keep hidden inside, and how to infuse those gifts into our personal and professional life in a way that feels like magic. We’ll also uncover how to truly experience the joy of the journey through smart time management and planning. I’m your host, Allyson Scammell, let’s uncork.
You are listening to The Uncorked Conversation Podcast with Allyson Scammell, episode number 40. Hello and welcome to The Uncorked Conversation, a podcast for soul guided, passion filled women entrepreneurs who want to uncork big magic in life and business without burning out. We’ll get to the truth of how to uncork our core gifts, the ones we keep hidden inside, and how to infuse those gifts into our personal and professional life in a way that feels like magic. We’ll also uncover how to truly experience the joy of the journey through smart time management and planning. I’m your host, Allyson Scammell. Let’s uncork.
Well hello there. It’s episode 40. I’m so happy, and I dedicate every 10th episode to telling a story, and I’m really happy about today’s story, the Uncorked story. I’m going to be sharing my journey with the word “uncork” and how it arrived to me, the struggle I had with it, how I overcame the struggle, and how from it I was able to birth something new. And in this story, I dedicate it to you, in service to you, that you may find the lessons in it that you can apply to your life and your journey to uncorking your true authenticity, your core gifts, your purpose in life, so you may be in your full light as you give back to the planet and the people you feel called to serve.
In 2017, I took Martha Beck’s Master Coach Training Program, and it was an odyssey. I started the program when Freya, my daughter, was eight months old, thinking I had the bandwidth. I didn’t. At the same time, I want to say I was called. I listened to my heart, I listened to my guides, and they all said it was the year to do it. I received the message, “Don’t wait.” So Freya was eight months old. I had just returned to my coaching business after maternity leave, and I decided to sign up for Master Coach Training, and it was really challenging. I was so overloaded, and I was living in Brussels at the time, and the group classes, I remember so well, they were at 7:00 PM at night, right at Freya’s bedtime, and I remember being in tears with the phone to my ear, because they were teleclasses, and my line on mute, nursing Freya, trying to get her to sleep, and in tears because I was missing what I perceived at the time to be very important pieces of the phone call, of the class, and thinking, “Wow. This is not how I wanted this to be.”
And I also remember always being in fear that I somehow didn’t have my phone muted properly, and that the other Master Coach trainees could hear Freya crying in the background as I tried to put her to sleep. Yeah, those were challenging times, and the training program for me was much more challenging and intense than I thought it would be, and I was trying to figure out so much newness at once. Figuring out how to mother a baby, how to be a second mother to two older children, how to bring our family together, how to run a business whilst being a mother, and how to fit an intensive coach training into all of that.
And throughout the Master Coach Training Program, something started to form. Something started to develop. Something started to burn inside of me, and I really couldn’t put words to what was happening, so I just let it sort of simmer inside of me. And the simmering got hotter and hotter as the coach training program came to an end, and it culminated at a retreat on Martha’s ranch, a ranch she has since sold, so I feel very blessed that I got to experience that magical place, and I talk about this experience in episode number one. What happened to me, when I was in the ring with a horse being coached by Jennifer Voss, who most people call Jevo, and she is the coordinator of the Master Coach Training Program, and she herself is a master Equus instructor and generally amazing person. I interview her in episode 37, so if you haven’t listened to that yet, I highly recommend it.
And if you’re not familiar with Equus coaching, I will offer my understanding of it. It’s when you are in a ring or a small pen with a horse, and if you are in full alignment, and grounded, and in a place of peace, calm and joy, in our natural state, the horse will follow you and will respond to your cues and do things that you want it to do as it gets in energetic alignment to you. The horse will be your mirror. And if you are out of alignment or fear is holding you back in some way, the horse will respond to that as well, and it will not listen to you, it will not follow you, and it will not do what you ask it to do.
So I’m sitting in the ring with Jevo trying to get the horse to gallop around me in a circle, and I was so out of alignment that the horse just stared at me, and Jevo asked me, “Well, what do you want, Allyson?” And I just felt completely at a loss of words. And then she said again, “Allyson, what do you want?” And in that moment I snapped into full alignment, and any barriers that was keeping me inside of my comfort zone broke free, and this word that I never use came to me from inside, and I said, “I want to uncork.” And in that moment, the horse took off, and I started to make a sound that came from my gut, and it’s a sound I’ll never be able to repeat again. I’m sure of it. It wasn’t loud, but it was so powerful, and the horse just kept galloping faster and faster, so powerful, so connected to me, and I was completely uncorked. I didn’t care what people thought. There was nothing keeping me inside. There was no fear holding me back. I was in my power.
And it was so life changing for me, and significant feeling, that I took that word and I made it the centerpiece of the brand of my business. So you have this podcast, The Uncorked Conversation. You have my closed Facebook group, The Uncorked Cabal. You have my tagline, “Uncork big magic.” And I wanted to fully embody this uncorking and help other people help my clients and the people I feel called to serve to do the same. So I went on an odyssey to uncork, and at first I had so much fear. So I had that moment in the ring, but then I stepped out of the ring and the fear all returned, and the cork went back on me, corking up my superpowers and my true authenticity and my true nature.
And I came back to my business, and I thought about what it was I really wanted to share with you, my ideal audience, my listeners, and I continued to cork up out of fear of what you may think. And I was afraid to share my spiritual gifts, my ability to communicate to nonphysical consciousness, my ability to get visions from your energy body that are oracles about things happening in your life, that will help you get clarity about where to put your focus. My other spiritual abilities that people don’t talk about in polite conversation, and it’s different, and it’s alternative. It’s unconventional, and so I had to, again and again and again, overcome the fear of, “How might people receive this? How might they perceive me? Will they perceive me as crazy? Will they not like it? Will they leave my tribe?” And again and again and again, I asked myself, “If fear wasn’t holding me back today, what is one thing I would do to uncork?” And every time I got an answer, I acted on that answer.
And one of the big things that came to me is, “I would run a webinar about how to communicate to your spirit guides, the angels.” The nonphysical presence that is here, the divine wisdom that is here to support us in our life. And at first I was like, “I can’t talk about my ability to talk to angels, and people who have passed over, and saints, and trees, and the wind, and water, and rocks, and animals. People might think I’m crazy.” So I thought, “Well, okay. I have this fear. How can I overcome it? I’m on a path to uncorking here. Can’t stop now.”
So the first thing that came to me was start small. Start with an audience or a group of people that I trust. And if I turn one or two of them off, that’s okay, because I know enough of them there will really want what I have to offer and will be in alignment to it. So I started talking about these gifts in The Uncorked Cabal, my private closed Facebook group, and then once that started to feel comfortable, I went to the next level, to my business group, which is larger, and there are more people in the general public that consume that. Anybody on Facebook can consume that information. Then I moved on to sharing it with my whole list on my personal page, and I ran a webinar on how to connect to your spirit guides, and I received so much positive feedback from it I ran a second one several months later, and I will very likely run the webinar again, and every time I do it, and every time I uncork a little bit farther, it gets way less scary and I start to get the feedback from my ideal audience that, “Wow, Allyson, I needed this. This helped me. Thank you.”
And the more I uncorked and the more I put out into the world my true nature, all of my core gifts, all of my authenticity, I made it easier and easier for my ideal clients and consumers to find me, my soul sisters, who we agreed before we came into our human forms to help each other, and they need me and I need them. We need each other. Because of my uncorking, they were able to find me, and if I’d have stayed corked, I would have been attracting a different person who’s not a soul sister, and maybe that relationship would have been okay, but it wouldn’t have been mind blowing, which is what can happen when you connect to your ideal audience. And I don’t know about you, but I came here to have my mind blown. I don’t want to accept anything less than mind blown. And that’s what I want to offer my ideal audience and my ideal clients, and that’s what I want to receive back from my offerings. Mind blown. Awe. Inspiration. “Holy bleep.”
But then something happened. Once I thought I had it all figured out, I started to shift into a feeling of non-alignment again as is what will happen in the change cycle, and I received another calling, and that was to move beyond uncorking, and to have, in the sense that uncorking will always remain a fundamental part of who I am and how I help people, but what I realize now is that I do that as one piece of all the things that I do. So I had this realization that I’ve outgrown “uncork,” and it served a critical role as the heart of my brand and my business, and for how I show up in the world, and now I’m moving on to something bigger and more expansive, and uncorking will be rolled up inside of that expansion.
But then it’s like, “Okay, what’s the new word I’m going to hang my hat on in my business?” And it wasn’t coming to me. And it felt like I just kept throwing spaghetti at the wall and coming up with okay ideas, and sending it to my ideal audience members, and asking for feedback, and getting, “It’s okay. You can do better.” And I knew they were right, and I was like, “Why isn’t it arriving?” And I was frustrated. Then I started to get mad at Uncorked, because it was like, “I have outgrown this and the new next thing isn’t arriving.” And I realized that it will arrive when it wants to arrive and I cannot force it. So I settled in to make peace with Uncorked, and continue to uncork, because maybe I still had some uncorking to do, and there were people out there who needed that specific frequency of uncork before I moved on.
And then I got this little bout of inspiration. I am a mind mapper, and I got this nudge, this yearning to mind map. And it’s like, “What is it I am about today as a coach? What is happening in my life?” And I started to mind map the various threads, and guess what? A word showed up. Another word, and I realized that this was the word I have grown to, and this is a word that will grow with me, I believe, as my business grows in a way that Uncorked couldn’t. Uncorked had a shelf life as a brand, as the centerpiece of my brand, but this new word, I feel, and I could be wrong, and that’s totally okay, I believe will grow with me for a longer period of time until it reaches its lifespan, whenever that is, and I am in absolute creative flow to that, and I am in creative response without attachment, and that feels so good, which is probably why the new word decided to wait to arrive, so I could really truly shift into that creative response instead of being frustrated that it hadn’t arrived yet.
And that new word is growth. Growing. Grow. To grow. I realized that what I feel called to focus on now, as the heart of my brand and my business and the heart of my service to you, is growth. How to grow your business, how to grow your income, your impact, your inspiration. How to grow to the next evolution of your spirituality. How to grow your unique abilities or your core gifts. How to grow your tribe, your influence. How to grow your joy, your experiences. How to grow your acceptance and your ability to be in that creative response to what is presence.
So with that being the heart, the engine that will drive me forward as I create content and am in service to you, and if you’re still listening, you are lucky, because I’m going to announce the new name of the podcast. I’m so excited. Oh my gosh. I’m just tingling from head to toe. So the new name of this podcast is going to be, She Grows. It is a podcast dedicated to soul guided women entrepreneurs who want to grow in life and business to the next level of income, impact and inspiration, and all of those other things I mentioned earlier. And if you are not a soul guided woman entrepreneur, if you are a man or if you do not have a business, if you don’t consider yourself soul guided but this content is speaking to you, then She Grows is for you too. It’s for anyone who feels called to listen.
So my next step is to really go inward and take a deep journey inward to really explore what this means, She Grows, and once I’ve explored inward inside of myself, I’m going to be assembling a really awesome creative team this summer to help me with the rebrand, with giving it the new look, feel, vibe. So that means I’m going to be taking a break this summer to focus on the rebrand, and I’m going to be returning late summer, early fall, I’ll let you know exactly when, with the new podcast. It will be episode 41. The general content will be very similar. It might have a slightly different flavor or vibe, to be determined, but I will return with episode number 41, and so you don’t have to resubscribe or do anything different. You will continue to receive episodes when the time is right, I am sure. And if you have any thoughts or ideas or inspiration about what I should consider as I develop She Grows, please let me know. I love to get inspiration from listeners. I take it so to heart.
And before I say goodbye to “uncork” as the heart of my brand and my business and what it is I offer, I would challenge you to ask, “What part of me, is there any part of me that I’ve been corking up that it’s no longer in service to me or the planet that I cork it up? And if fear wasn’t holding me back, what is one thing I would do today to uncork? What piece of my core gifts, my authenticity, my true nature would I uncork today?” And I challenge you to uncork that part of you. I challenge you to confront that fear that’s holding you back, because your ideal people need that thing that’s inside of you that wants to get out. And if you uncork it, you are making it so much more easy for them to find you, and to receive your amazing gifts. And I’m going to say at one final time on this podcast, and I say it with tears in my eyes. Until next time, stay uncorked.
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