Oh Wait, The Universe IS Actually Giving Me What I Want

[00:00:00] Hey ho dear ones, have you heard the expression? The universe doesn’t always give you what it you want, but it gives you what you need. That can be a very annoying thing to hear when you’re,, really wanting something that’s not arriving. I have to say that I believe that that is true, and usually when there’s a big disconnect between what we think we want.

[00:00:25] And what we’re getting, there’s some blocks there. Either our wants are coming from our, our head and our ego, so there’s not some non-alignment there, or we’re not ready yet. Energetically, emotionally for our wants to arrive. We think we’re not worthy. So those blocks are also knocking us out of alignment.

[00:00:49] But sometimes, and I would say often, the universe is actually giving you what you want. And what happens is we tend to neglect to see it and notice it. So we resist it and therefore. We’re not actually receiving and allowing into our experience the very things our heart is calling us towards. And that is what we’re gonna be unpacking in today’s super powerful episode of Soul Guide Radio.

[00:01:29] Before we get to all that, I’d love to share with you a listener review, and this review comes from CH three, so. Great handle. Yes, that timeline is true, is the episode she is leaving a review for and if you haven’t had a chance to check out that episode, we’ll leave a link in the show notes and she says, or he says, or they say.

[00:01:53] I appreciate how clearly Allison explains her concepts. And thoughts. It really makes a lot of sense. That was a short and sweet review that I really appreciate because I think so often in this spiritual discourse, these big, you know, profound concepts get lost in big, profound explanations. And when you actually lean into even the most profound aspect of quantum physics or energetic consciousness.

[00:02:27] There’s always a simple way to break it down and talk about it, and that’s what I aim to do here in Soul Guide Radio. So if you’re new to my world, I welcome you. I appreciate you. I’m gonna go ahead and say I love you. I feel energetic feelings of love for people who tune in and connect to what I have to say.

[00:02:49] And if you’ve been here for a while with me, I appreciate you. Thank you so much for coming back. I love showing up in your earbuds again, so, so grateful for you. Alright, let’s get to today’s episode about, Hey. Oh wait, the universe is actually giving me what I want. So in today’s episode, I reveal how the universe is actually often giving us what we want, why we don’t always see it, and how to energetically align to receive even more of what it is you want.

[00:03:25] We’ll end on an invitation that will have you starting to really, really see. In powerful ways, all the ways the universe is conspiring on your behalf to give you what it is. Your heart is desiring, so please stay with me until the end. Well, hello there. Dear ones, you and I together are creating a global community of soul guided leaders, coaches, healers, and entrepreneurs called The Soul Guide Circle in the Soul Guide Circle.

[00:04:28] We’re inviting in our spiritual gifts to get our clients even more results and transformation and create massive referral buzz. Find a link to join our closed Facebook group@allysonscammell.com or in the show notes. Today we’re talking about how the universe does actually give us what we want, what we actually want.

[00:04:48] I’m not talking about like these soul needs. We need on a soul level to heal and grow and evolve. Of course, that’s important too, and that is also true that we sometimes get what we need and not what we want. But we often get what we want and we don’t see it, and it actually blocks our ability to allow it in to actually really receive it.

[00:05:10] So it’s right there staring at you in your manifest reality. You can see it, touch it, smell it. Your five senses can go crazy over this. Want arriving into your experience and your brain is saying, well, that’s not it. That’s not what I asked for. Where is it? I don’t see it. I want it. I yearn for it. Why isn’t it here?

[00:05:36] But there it is, staring you right in the eye. And I wanna say this often happens when, let’s talk about here for a second. The you in this situation, the you is the big case. Why you. So uppercase, YOU, your wants coming from the higher self. If the ego is involved and it’s a lowercase y your ego wants something, well,

[00:06:08] if that ego want shows up into your experience, you’re usually gonna see it right away and be like, oh, there it is, but it’s usually not gonna actually lead you to joy. It might lead you to some short term happiness in the moment to be followed by a crash of regret or remorse, or I didn’t actually really want that, or that didn’t feed me fuel my soul and fill my soul the way I thought it would.

[00:06:35] And that’s okay. This is all part of our learning and our growth. So what I’m talking about here is the big why you want. And I’m gonna give you an example of how this played out in my experience. So I moved to the Netherlands five years ago. I have lived in 10 countries on four continents, and some of those countries I’ve been in hermetically sealed either American or expatriate international bubbles, completely divorced of the local, reality that was happening around me.

[00:07:07] You know, that’s the nature sometimes of humanitarian work. Usually it was because those local environments were too dangerous for me to go out into. So I was in these compounds, these little bubbles. Right. That was one example. In some places I lived, I was completely at the local level, completely immersed with the local people speaking their language without expat or international friends.

[00:07:34] And in some of those countries I did a combination of both. I had ex expatriate friends, I had international friends, I had local friends, and it was a little amalgamation of everything. So when we live moved to the Netherlands five years ago, my husband and I made the conscious choice that we were gonna really try to integrate and we may try to naturalize.

[00:07:56] And become citizens here. And we were gonna be immigrants, not expatriates, we weren’t gonna be just passing through on our way to the next thing. We weren’t gonna stay inside of an international bubble. We were gonna live in a Dutch community. I. Which we’ve done send our daughter to a Dutch school, which we’ve done.

[00:08:17] Learn the language. My husband was already fluent, Freya became fluent. You know, she started Dutch school at four years old. She was fluent within about three months. And I have been little by little taking my buffalo steps for the last five years. And I’m now towards, you know, getting to that B two level Dutch working my way to C one.

[00:08:37] If you know those levels, it’s, that’s like. Upper intermediate, like I’m knocking on advanced duchess door. Although, you know, the ro, the pathway to fluency in any foreign language is a long one, and you kind of never really feel like you ever really arrive. Especially if you’re learning the foreign language as an adult, but I’ve made incredible progress.

[00:08:57] Pat, pat, myself on the shoulder. But let me tell you, dear ones, this has not been an easy path. This has been like, this has knocked me on my ass so many times. I can’t even begin to tell you. I’ve so often felt since arriving here that I was just a foreigner.

[00:09:22] I wasn’t wanted here, I wasn’t accepted here. Sometimes I have felt completely invisible and you know, it’s not like this. I don’t wanna like. Create, any sort of negative stereotypes. I would say, however, that in all the countries that I’ve lived in. Again, having the all international experience and having the fully local experience, so having the range of experiences, if you will.

[00:09:52] This has been the hardest place for me to land into. I think, you know, it’s a small country, Holland. There is a lot of people in a small place. Dutch people tend to befriend. The people that they went to elementary school, primary school with, and they stay friends with those people, their brothers and sisters live down the street.

[00:10:16] Their moms and dads live in the next town over. So they have a full social circle. They don’t need more friends. And if I put it in my own context, if I would’ve, you know, stayed where I grew up. And not moved away and built a life there. I would’ve had all my friends and my mom and my siblings, and if a new person moved to town, I probably wouldn’t, you know, I don’t know.

[00:10:44] I’m so curious about human beings and I feel like I’m always open to a new friendship, but you know, probably I would be like, I’m full. I don’t have, you know, nothing against you, new person in this hypothetical situation. You seem like a nice person, but I don’t have time for you in my full social , agenda that already has lots of people in it, and I think that’s what’s often happening here.

[00:11:10] You know, the Dutch circles are just full, so when a foreigner pops in and it’s like, hi, do you wanna be my friend? There’s not a lot of wiggle room to get into places. And it took me a long time to understand that. And at first I just felt flat up rejected. And it was really painful. And I think it’s because I am so good with people.

[00:11:34] I do connect with people quickly. I read people so I know how to connect. And this was the first time in my life. So let’s see, I’m 49 years old now. We moved here when I was 44, so it was the first time in my 44 years of life. I felt like I just couldn’t connect to people. People just weren’t connecting to me, wanting to be my friend from a place of, natural ease and flow and all those things.

[00:12:07] And so. , I’m a spiritual person, so I used my spiritual gifts. I first started healing all the things. There’s some must be something wrong with me. I’m being rejected, I’m not being accepted. And then when I kind of. Dug a layer in deeper, the thoughts were kind of like, I reject myself, right?

[00:12:27] ’cause whenever we feel other people treating us poorly, it’s also normally also true that we’re treating ourselves poorly in a same or similar way. So I uncovered all that. I did all the healing, and then I started setting intentions. Okay. I said, what? You know now I know what I don’t want, right?

[00:12:47] And I’ve healed the things that are triggering pain. Okay, what do I want? What is my heart calling me towards? And my heart was calling me towards really aligned people who love me and appreciate me and want me around and have this beautiful connection with me. So I set that intention.

[00:13:07] And then through the years, I just had the feeling that the intention wasn’t arriving. It wasn’t arriving, the universe wasn’t giving me what I want. Right, and I got kind of pissed off like, Hey, I’m doing the healing. I’m setting the intentions. I’m aligning my energy. Where the heck are my local people? I have a great global tribe.

[00:13:31] I have my friends from college who are like my BFF Soul sisters. You know they live in the United States. I live in Europe, so we don’t get to see each other as much, but we are texting all the time, calling each other. We get together once or twice a year, so like I have that, but like, where is my local tribe?

[00:13:49] Why isn’t it showing up universe? Give me what I want.

[00:13:55] Then the other day, a neighbor of mine who’s also a friend. A local friend might I add who I have been friends with since literally the first week we moved to town. She’s actually the person who lived in our house before we moved in and they just bought another house down the street. I. So they knew everything about the house and they were really helpful with like, oh, this sink has a leak.

[00:14:24] You should use this handyman. I mean, they were this amazing resource who became her and her husband became good friends of Pete and I. So already you can see where I’m going with this story. Well, yeah. There’s a local friend right there. So she was having a birthday and she invited us to her birthday, and they’re pretty social people, so they have.

[00:14:47] Parties a few times a a year, and they invite their friends. So like all of their friends I have come to know because I’ve seen them repeatedly at this party. Well, she invited us, Pete, Fran, and I, to a birthday party and we went and you know what? It just felt like family. I walked over there and everybody was either from the Netherlands, there was a wo, a woman and good friend of mine from Russia, this woman that I’m talking about, whose birthday

[00:15:17] party it was, she’s married to a Dutch guy, but she’s originally from Guatemala. There was a girl there from Ireland. Pete and I were there. We’re from the United States, pretty much ev Oh. Uh, there was a woman there from Argentina. And pretty much everyone else was from the Netherlands, but they were from the Netherlands and they were all very international.

[00:15:40] Every single last one of them had lived in Luxembourg. , There was this amazing, fascinating woman there and she had lived in also in Guatemala, which is how she and my friend Amelia had gotten so close and she had lived in London and she had lived in all these amazing places all over the world, and she was just lovely and I had the best time, and Freya was having a ball.

[00:16:03] Everybody was having so much fun. And I just looked around and I’m like, what’s wrong with you, Allison? This. This right here. This is what I want. These are my people. These are people who all speak Dutch, and they’re all totally embedded into Holland. They’re not living in an international bubble of expats.

[00:16:23] They all speak Dutch, but yet. Some of them come from different countries like I do, and all of them have lived abroad like I have, and all of them are worldly and well traveled like I am. These are my people. Oh wait, the universe has given me what I want. It has given me what I’ve been longing for, but I just didn’t see it.

[00:16:52] So why is it? Why is it we don’t always see all the beautiful wonder and gifts and glory that the universe is giving to us each and every day? The number one reason why is because we think it should look some. Way else. We think it should be somehow different. We get a vision in our mind of what we think it should look like, and sometimes that can even be a soul guided vision.

[00:17:26] Maybe you’re doing a visioning exercise. This is something I teach in Soul Blueprint, where you’re tapping into your spiritual gift of manifestation and you’re doing a soul aligned visioning exercise to call forth. A vision of your intention fulfilled. So my intention was to create a local network of people who really got me, who felt like family, who lived nearby.

[00:17:51] And not so far away, but I guess in my mind I just thought, you know, it would be different. It would be like, ah. This is gonna sound really strange, but like it would be, less organic. I realize how silly this sounds as I’m saying it. So what I mean is like this little circle of friends that I’ve created in the neighborhood, which most of them were at that party, but there’s actually even more friends that weren’t even there.

[00:18:19] They really just arrived to me organically. Like a friendship and a circle of friends should arrive. But I guess I thought it was gonna be more like, oh, I’m at a yoga class and I run into someone named Susie and Susie and I just hit it off. And then we become these friends and, and, and I can like recall the moment, oh, we met at that.

[00:18:41] Remember we met at that one yoga class, almost like a romantic connection,, and I’m still open to that. Those, so those sort of like. Connections, unexpected connection at a yoga class or you know, at the gym or something. But it just organically unfolded with joy, ease, and flow into my experience.

[00:19:05] And for several years it was right there staring at me in the face and I just didn’t see it. The other thing that’s occurring to me is I, I was looking for spiritual friends and I wanted to get, you know, really high on the woo relationships going, but also the last time I got together for just a girls gathering.

[00:19:31] With this group of friends in the neighborhood I’m talking about, we got to talking about spirituality and I realized that they were all either more spiritual than I realized, or very open to spirituality. And when I opened up about my own spiritual beliefs and hey, I’m a psychic and I speak to spirit guides, and when I open up about all that.

[00:19:56] Some of ’em were right there with me and some of ’em were like open and curious and wow, what’s that all about? And isn’t that just what you want? They don’t, people don’t have to be the same level of woo as you if you’re like me, and very high on the woo, if don’t need to have a circle of friends that are also equally high.

[00:20:18] Now it’s good to have a few out there. And I definitely have some high on the Woo friends out there who are around the planet that I talk to almost every day on Voxer. That’s a voice messaging app. So I have those. And if you are high on the Woo or feel like you’re on the pathway to getting high on the Woo and you don’t have that yet, ask the universe to bring you some Hi woo friends.

[00:20:45] So you do have that. Spiritual community that you can really open up to and share and connect. But not everybody has to be that. And as long as people are open and accepting and curious, that’s all we need. And maybe you are the person who’s going to ignite the people who are just starting their spiritual path to get to someplace higher.

[00:21:17] So how do we energetically align to all this to receive even more of what we want is really stop and look around. Look around you and notice all the ways, Hey, wait, I’m getting what I want and I’m not talking about in this episode what you need. And I’m gonna record a podcast episode about those moments in time.

[00:21:43] And it’s frustrating. I’ve been there a million times myself, where you’re wanting one thing and the universe is actually getting you what you need on a soul level. Okay? That’s a thing. But this episode is about. When you’ve wanted it, your heart has called you towards it, and it’s right there, right now in your manifest reality.

[00:22:07] I’m talking about in your physical life. So it’s not all out on the con quantum of plane and we’re gonna align to it. And it already exists because you’ve created the energy. Yes. That’s all true too. I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about those intentions you set two years ago, five years ago, and they’re here.

[00:22:26] And you’re not seeing it because you expect it to look different. So what we wanna do is embrace the mantra that all of our intentions are this, were something better. And you had the vision of what you thought your dream intention would look like when you manifested it, but it’s actually looking different than what you expected, and it’s actually even better.

[00:22:58] So if you start to see and notice all the things that are arriving and you start to identify all the ways, it’s actually even better. You align more powerfully to that intention, so you can call in more of that thing you want. So if you want more sole clients into your business, start noticing all the ways that the clients are showing up now, all the potential ways, and if you’re feeling stuck or you’re on the newer side of your journey.

[00:23:34] Start to notice that one client that showed up, that one discovery call, that one person who commented to a post on social media, that energetic connection you felt with a peer start to notice it’s starting to arrive. You know, Rome doesn’t get built overnight. So, you know, I have a pretty thriving business right now, but let me tell you, honey, it was not always this way.

[00:24:01] And I’ve had my ups and downs and certainly when I first got started, it took me forever to get real energetic momentum. And if I, if I could do it over again, I would go back and in those early days, really start to notice like, ah. That is happening. Ugh. That is what I wanted in my business. I did wanna feel that way.

[00:24:21] I did want to experience that thing. I did wanna create that thing in service to that person. Start noticing now all the ways you are indeed getting what you want. That’s gonna put you in alignment to your higher intentions so the universe can conspire on your behalf. And give you even more of that, which your heart is calling you towards.

[00:24:49] My invitation for you this week is to do just that. Take a pause right now. If you can get out a pen and a paper and start writing down free flow journaling or just bullet journaling, all the things that are showing up in your life that are actually things you want and they are the result, the manifestation of intentions you set last week, last year, last decade, and the things that are really juicy and you’re like, yeah, I really love that.

[00:25:25] Say to the universe, put your orders in more of that universe, please. That birthday party I was just talking about at my friend Amelia’s house, that was so fun. It was so cozy. It was so lovely. It was such a nice connection of loving beings who I know really care about me, and I know if something would go wrong in my life, in my house, Freya was sick, I could call them.

[00:25:53] And they would be right over, just like if they had something happening in their life and they needed me, they could call me and I would be right over. And that’s real friendship. That’s real support, and it’s something I had been longing for and longing for. And lo and behold, I already have it.

[00:26:15] That’s a wrap for this week, my dear ones. If you received something nice from this episode, head on over to where it is. You listen. Hit subscribe. Give us a rating. Give us a review. I will read your words on the air with so much love, and hey, hit me up with a DM or send me an email.

[00:26:36] toAllison@allisonscammel.com. If there is a topic you’d love me to explore on Soul Guide Radio, Hey, look, I’m a projector. I wait for invitations. I will use that as my invitation to explore the topic that you would love to learn more about. So I would love to hear from you. And as always, until next time, may your soul guide the way.

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00:00 Introduction

01:29 Listener Review and Show Introduction

03:01 Understanding the Disconnect Between Wants and Reality

06:43 Personal Journey: Integrating into Dutch Life

16:40 Realizing the Universe’s Gifts

21:17 Aligning to Receive More of What You Want

24:49 Invitation