My Healing Is Exactly Where It Should Be

[00:00:00] Hey ho Dear ones, we have reached part four of our four part series revealing the biggest false and hidden stories I hear from my clients. And if you haven’t had the chance to catch parts one through three, we’re gonna leave links in the show notes. I do. Really recommend you check these out because these are the stories that we tell ourselves often without realizing it, that come directly from our wounds and social conditioning.

[00:00:34] They’re stories that throw us off and we don’t realize that they’re throwing us off. And also that play on a loop. So when these limiting stories are playing on a loop, that means that we can heal a wound, but yet this limiting story is playing so it recreates the same wound that we just have to heal again, and it can make us feel very stuck.

[00:01:00] So the title of the episodes in this series all reveal the true story. And today’s episode is really, truly saving the best for last. I believe it’s one of the most important messages I can convey to soul guided leaders, lightworkers, and entrepreneurs. And that is to tell you that your healing is exactly where it should.

[00:01:32] Be, and before I go any further, let’s go ahead and get to unpacking what that means. In today’s episode, I reveal the false story behind my healing is exactly where it should be, where this false story comes from and had a spot when this false story may be playing in your life and even playing on repeat, causing you to heal the same wound over and over again, we’ll end on an invitation that will have you making peace with your healing journey.

[00:02:07] So profoundly that you’re able to invite in even more healing and experience loads of more peace. So stay with me until the end.  

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[00:03:16] Find the link to join our closed Facebook group at allysonscammell.com or in the show notes. We have reached part four of a four part series exploring the false stories we tell ourselves without realizing it, and I really have saved the best for last in the sense that. I have really seen so many of my clients beat themselves up again and again and again because they hold this false story to be true, and that is, I should be over this by now.

[00:03:55] So they feel as if though they’ve healed. A certain pain or challenge or struggle in their lives so many times, and they can’t understand why. It just keeps coming back and it leaves them with the limiting belief, I should be over this by now. And that is false. That is a false story coming from conditioning, coming from our wounds.

[00:04:24] And the truth is. My healing is exactly where it should be because if it was meant to be anywhere else, it would be there. And it’s really important to explore into where this false story comes from of I should be over this by now and before I get into where it comes from. What this false story really produces inside of us is this idea that there’s something wrong with me.

[00:04:58] I should be over this by now. Therefore, something is wrong with me because it keeps showing up in my experience. Therefore, I am doing something wrong. But what if that was all false? Because here’s the deal, we are all born with certain core wounds. Those are the big wounds that are literally designed in some cases to stay with us from birth to death.

[00:05:30] Some of our wounds, and I don’t mean to bum anybody out. But some of our wounds actually don’t heal a hundred percent in this lifetime, even when we are exactly on track doing all the healing that we’re here to do and heal. The reason why is because inside of our wounds are lifetimes and lifetimes of ancestral and past lifetime trauma.

[00:06:03] They’re wounds that have collected over, in some cases, millions of experiences from your ancestry and from your own soul, DNA, your own past lifetime experience.

[00:06:18] So of course, if it took us, let’s just say a million lifetimes to create the wound. Of course, we aren’t gonna be able to heal the wound in just one lifetime. However, we can heal our trauma faster than we can create it. So if we pick up a trauma over 10 lifetimes, we can heal that trauma in five or three or even one.

[00:06:48] So we can heal an overwhelming majority of our trauma in this lifetime. But what’s the most important way to look at it is I’m healing. All the trauma that I have agreed to on a soul level in my soul contracts. So what is a soul contract? A soul contract is something that you agree to on a soul level before you come into your body.

[00:07:19] Soul contracts are the things, the challenges, the people, the experiences that you are meant to heal from, learn from, grow from, evolve from. So really you can evolve to the next level of your potential. Healing is almost always part of all soul contracts, so you should never think about how can I heal all the wounding inside of me because you may or may not be able to do that in this lifetime.

[00:07:49] No matter how on track you are with your own healing, the question should be, how can I fulfill all my soul contracts for this lifetime? That is what we wanna be focused on. That is what you’re, we’re all here to do. Because on a soul level, we would never give ourselves more so so contracts than what we could realistically fulfill.

[00:08:13] In a lifetime. Imagine your soul already did all the work and the research about what you need to do, be heal, experience in this lifetime, to be in alignment to your soul mission and to grow to the next level of your potential for your next lifetime. So thinking about how can I fulfill my soul contracts for this lifetime?

[00:08:37] Yeah. Thinking about core wounds. Yeah. They’re gonna show up more than once. They’re gonna show up sometimes what we’ll feel on repeat. Now, that’s not to say like, oh, okay, I have this challenge. So I’m just stuck with it and there’s nothing I can do. Absolutely not. This process about making peace with the fact that my healing is, is exactly where it should be, is empowering.

[00:09:04] It enables you to step into your power and hold onto. My healing is here for a reason, and it actually serves me. It enables me to grow. It enables me to heal, and it enables me to learn so I can do it better next time. From a more empowered place. And when we make peace with this healing journey, we heal so much more powerfully.

[00:09:30] Because we’re not beating ourselves up. We aren’t telling ourself the false story. I should be over this by now because that’s exactly not true. We actually shouldn’t be. I am where I am on my path. I’ve done my work. I’m working on fulfilling my soul contracts for this lifetime. Every time I heal, I extract the lessons.

[00:09:53] I gather the learning. So when I go out there tomorrow to do it all again. I’m approaching everything from a higher place of healing and a higher place of awareness and know-how, because I’ve been there before. I’ve been on that path. But even if this struggle I have in my life is coming back because I’ve done the healing, because I’ve extracted the lessons, every time it comes back, it’s gonna come back a little bit softer.

[00:10:28] It’s gonna hurt a little bit less, and I’m gonna be a little bit more empowered to move through it again because I’ve been there. I’ve done that.

[00:10:39] And one way to notice if this fall story is playing inside you is to notice if there’s any. Reoccurring struggle or challenge that you’re frustrated by and you believe on some level you should be over that by now you’ve done the healing, you’ve done the work, and this struggle should not indeed be coming back.

[00:11:01] Certainly there could be an opportunity there to ask, is there any part of my healing that I’m resisting or I’m not looking at? Or are there any lessons that are here for me that I’m not seeing? So it’s always a beautiful opportunity to pause and ask, is there any healing that wants to happen?

[00:11:19] Are there any lessons that want to be learned? But usually this feeling of I should be over this by now is because we don’t really honor. And realize how long the Healing journey really takes, and just how long our soul experience has been added. Just how long our soul has been around collecting all of these wounds and just how many wounds that we inherited when we went into our physical body, and we inherited all that ancestral trauma.

[00:11:58] So we have so many blocks and wounds inside of us, but this is not to bum you out, because listen. Our core wounds inform our soul mission. So the core wounds that we’re here to heal from in this lifetime always points us to the work we’re meant to do in the world, how we’re here to serve others. So it starts with asking the question, what is a struggle?

[00:12:27] Or a wound or a limiting thought or a challenge in my life that I feel I should be over this by now. And for me, I think, although my gosh, do I feel like I’ve done so much work on this thought that there’s almost no pain that shows up. So that means I’m in a really good alignment. With this thought and I have done all the healing, and guess what?

[00:12:53] My healing is exactly where it should be, and that is I need to overwork to succeed. I need to burn myself out or I will burn myself out. I’ve burned myself out so many times and I’ve really learned the lessons and there’s so many layered lessons in there. Like I give myself permission to rest. I give myself permission not to work eight hour days.

[00:13:21] Like there’s so much. Our core wounds have. So many like sub lessons inside of them that you can just layer in deep with all the learning and wisdom that have really come from your core wounds. So when I think about how it shows up for me today and just asking the question, what part of this core wound should I be over by now?

[00:13:45] And that’s the limiting thought coming in.

[00:13:48] Oh, so, okay. So, you know, all sorts of things are coming up for me now. Like I should be exercising more, I should be eating healthier. I should be doing all the things that I know contributes to my energetic harmony that I’m not doing, and I should be. So in essence, I should be over this by now. Because I know what I need to do to reach even more optimal harmony than I have now, and I’m not doing it.

[00:14:16] And that is all false programming because my healing and I am exactly where I should be. So it doesn’t mean this story of I’m exactly where I should be, doesn’t mean complacency and it doesn’t mean. I accept the fact that I’m not eating as healthy or moving my body as much as I want to, it’s all just awareness. I am where I am. I’m gonna heal anything in this moment that’s not serving me. So in this case, I should be. Moving my body more, eating healthier. And that just kind of triggers some overwhelm in me. Self-criticism, doubt, anger, annoyance, uh, unworthiness.

[00:14:58] So you can see there’s still kind of a lot there. So I’m gonna feel those feels. Breathe release. So when I say feel the feels, I’m feeling the emotions, I’m feeling the physical sensations, feeling the tactile sensations. And then when the emotional wave starts to go down, I breathe deep belly breaths and release.

[00:15:23] On the exhale,

[00:15:26] I go back to the true story. My healing is exactly where it should be. And now I just feel connected to my truth and naturally motivated. It’s a beautiful sunny day today. I feel naturally motivated to get the dog leash and go on a super long walk with Astrid through nature. Get my steps in and just know that is all the movement I need today.

[00:15:56] To maintain my energetic harmony because my healing and I am exactly where it and I should be.

[00:16:07] Alright, dear ones, my invitation for you this week is to explore into this limiting story. Do you ever say to yourself, I should be over this by now. What’s wrong with me? And what exactly should you be over by now? Can you do any healing that wants to happen in this moment? Are there any lessons that are ready to be retrieved so that you can take the empowered inspired action your heart is calling you to take?

[00:16:41] That’s a wrap for this episode, and that’s a wrap for this four part series. If you’ve been with me through them all, thank you so much. I’m so grateful for you. If you’re just hopping in today, go back to the show notes and check out parts one through three because it really is some juicy nuggets for you to live a more joyful and aligned life.

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00:00 Introduction

03:30 The False Story: ‘I Should Be Over This By Now’

05:22 Understanding Core Wounds and Soul Contracts

09:05 Empowering Your Healing Journey

10:47 Practical Steps to Embrace Your Healing

16:17 Invitation