Celebrating 200 Episodes of Soul Guide Radio in FLOW

[00:00:00] Hi dear ones. This is episode 200 of Soul Guide Radio, and it’s actually somewhere around in the 350th episode of all my podcasts combined. But today we’re celebrating 200 episodes, specifically from Soul Guide Radio, my third podcast that I’ve launched, and I have been on a wild ride this last summer, so I thought about like what would I really most want to talk about in this 200th episode?

[00:00:37] And the word that came to me, I got one word, which was flow. And I love podcasting the most when I’m just in a flow and it’s just flowing. The divine is just flowing through me into your earbuds, giving you exactly what you need in this moment and highest service to you. Giving you something that’s gonna give you a snippet of transformation, that’s gonna inspire you, heal you, give you a different perspective, offer you some know-how that maybe you didn’t have before to simply make your life better, to get you some results to help you feel good.

[00:01:20] So that is my intention for this episode. I don’t know what’s going to flow through. And so before we get into, in today’s episode, I am gonna start out with a listener review. And if you would like to give Soul Guide Radio some love and appreciation on this 200th episode, I would be so grateful I would read your review on the air.

[00:01:54] And I would send you some extra love, uh, energetically through the airwaves, uh, to say thank you for taking the time. So today’s review comes from Fearless Gem in Canada and she gives. Soul Guide Radio five stars and calls it a grounding space for real growth. Ooh, I love that. And she or he or they say, soul Guide Radio is a space that truly meets you where you are.

[00:02:25] Allyson holds conversations that feel real, thoughtful and deeply insightful, helping listeners pause. Reflect and reconnect with what matters. Oh, yes. Thank you. Fearless Gem. I do indeed intend and set the intention to do those things, so I’m so happy you’re receiving them. And if you’re feeling so called, head on over to the show notes, there is a link to.

[00:02:53] Leave a rating. Rating and review. There are different platforms. If you’ve left a review on one, you can leave a review on another and you can also leave a second review. So. If you do it on Apple Podcasts, I believe you just update your old review. So if you’ve done an old reveal review on Apple Podcasts and you wanna update it, I am certainly grateful.

[00:03:17] Alright, so let’s get to today’s episode where it, I’m just in flow and I don’t know what wants to flow through me. So in today’s episode, I am in flow and we’ll end on an invitation that will have you. In flow and feeling flow and in an alignment to flow. I’m not sure how, but we’re gonna find out. So please, I know you’re gonna wanna stay with me until the end.

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[00:04:48] Today we’re celebrating 200 episodes of Soul Guide Radio, and I am in flow of what wants to come through. And it’s been a crazy summer because my eldest daughter, Sophie got, had brain surgery and she is an epileptic. She has had epilepsy, you know, since she was around four or five years old. And, , the intention of this brain surgery was to hopefully enable her to.

[00:05:23] Not have seizures anymore and to eventually stop taking medication. That’s best case scenario. , Good scenario is that she has less seizures and she can maybe, , get to a point where all of her seizures are managed through medicine. ’cause right now she’s on medicine, but she’s still having seizures. So we’re hoping, and we won’t know for another six months.

[00:05:50] Exactly what the outcome of this surgery is. But, we are definitely praying that it is in some way makes her life better so she can have more freedom and, she just graduated from high school so she can eventually move on to college and just do all the things college kids do with not having to worry about having a seizure.

[00:06:17] And with those seizures, you kind of have to have someone always keeping an eye on you. You know, you just never know when a seizure’s gonna hit. And, so Sophie’s lucky. She’s got a lot of really mature friends who are. You know, really well capable of supporting Sophie when a seizure does come.

[00:06:40] Um, but it would be great if she could just, you know, get her driver’s license and go swimming by herself and, you know, do all the things that we take for granted. Uh, those of us who don’t have to deal with things like seizures and so. I’m just sending so much love and support to her as she navigates through this and her recovery, which is going great so far.

[00:07:05] But to rewind a little bit, you know, the hospital stay was pretty intense and I think all of us were going in it really positive and excited because we had been talking about and planning for this surgery for so long and really, especially Sophie and her biological mother, Mariela. I’m second mom, but I love her as if I birthed her myself.

[00:07:31] And especially Sophie and Mariela have been on this journey to preparing for this surgery. But my husband, Pete and I have also been there at the major milestones and we were all like nervous about it. Um, but, but also excited, excited for what this surgery might be able to get. Sophie. But you know, I believe that, the three parents and Sophie would all agree that it was a much more intense experience than we had originally planned. You know, we thought she was gonna go in, have this surgery and recover, but it ended up being she had to go in and put 19 electrodes in her brain.

[00:08:11] And these were electrodes. They were. Literally screwed into her skull, connected to various synopses in her brain so that they could monitor her brain activity and what actually happened. When she had a seizure so that they would know exactly where to operate. So it’s a pretty important part of the process, but that was such an uncomfortable situation for Sophie because she had this huge, heavy thing on her head.

[00:08:47] You know, she looked like Marge Simpson. It was all wrapped in like medical tape, but like, she had all these like wires going into her head. It was really heavy. She couldn’t stand up like she had, she was bedridden. Uh, I just felt so badly for her and she had that thing in for 10 days and then they started to take her off her medicine.

[00:09:10] So she’d have seizures. And then the poor thing had to endure like seizures knowing that they were coming and the more medicine that they, took away, the bigger the seizures got. And it was ultimately a good thing that she was having those seizures so they could record . What was happening in the brain when the seizures were happening.

[00:09:30] So they knew where to operate, but it was just so uncomfortable and I just felt so like, oh, is there anything I could do to take this discomfort away from Sophie? Could I experience it myself? Whatever could I do? And the thing that was so incredible for me about that experience is how we three parents came together.

[00:09:56] And now Mariela was definitely Sophie’s mom. , Bio mom. She was definitely the number one person and we all agreed it should be her. And she was, , pretty much by Sophie’s side the whole time. But, Pete and I also played an important role, and that was the thing, like as a stepparent, although I, I don’t like the word step, I’m just a parent.

[00:10:19] But in that role, you always have to ask yourself, well, what’s my role? I don’t need to overlap and be redundant and kind of overwhelm what other people are are already doing. I need to look at the. What’s happening and plug in to what feels aligned for me and where I can really add value to the relationship and to give myself a little credit.

[00:10:44] I believe I’ve more or less done that well throughout the years. Looked through and decided like where I can add enrichment and value as a parent. To Sophie and Alexander’s life, Alexander’s my son, without overwhelming them, overlapping being in, energy of competition or any of that. I was like, listen, I’m a projector and I do not have extra energy for drama.

[00:11:10] I, I don’t do drama. I don’t like drama. I avoid it as much as I humanly possibly can. When I find myself accidentally stuck in drama, I immediately say, how did I get here? Get me out. Get me out. , So I’m always looking for the harmony of a situation, the harmony of a relationship. And what was so special to me was how I was treated.

[00:11:41] In that hospital stay as an equal third parent. Sophie had three parents who were there loving her, supporting her. Each parent was coming in and doing their role, doing the thing that Sophie wanted from us and doing the thing that Sophie needed from us. And I was. Really in awe by how we were able to do that.

[00:12:11] And at a certain point, Sophie’s mom, Mariela was introducing me to a nurse and she said, this is Allyson Sophie’s mom. I just get teary eyed thinking about that. She said, this is Sophie’s mom. Can you imagine? She didn’t say this is Sophie’s stepmom, which is totally fine because in that situation that’s what you’d say.

[00:12:40] Because otherwise would they think that Marielle and I could be in a couple together? You know, for for sure. I mean, we could be in a same sex union together, whatever, so of course you need to use from time to time the clarifier. And she did say that later in the conversation. She did then reference me as stepmom.

[00:13:01] ’cause Pete wasn’t in the room at that point. But she just said, here is Allyson, Sophie’s mom. And I’ll never forget that. I also feel like Mariela was really appreciative of me during that hospital stay. I was. Really concerned about Sophie and making sure that Sophie had what she needed and whatever I could give her.

[00:13:30] But I was also really worried about Mariela because she was in the hospital room with Sophie the whole time, sleeping there at night. And of course I said to her, you know, Mariela, I’ll take a night if you want me to. But I knew she didn’t want that, and that was okay.

[00:13:45] But of course, had she wanted to like just spend a night sleeping in a hotel, of course I would’ve taken a a, a hospital night stay. But she didn’t want that. But she knew for whatever reason, had she needed a backup, that I would’ve been there in a heartbeat. But I think all that said, my point, what I’m getting to is that.

[00:14:06] Mariela appreciated me so much and I really felt that, I felt that she was happy I was there. She felt supported by me because I was worried about her in a supportive way. Worried in the sense like, Hey, Mariela, what do you need? Can I get you lunch? Do you need something from the pharmacy? How can I help?

[00:14:30] , Oh, you’re moving rooms. Can I watch the suitcases? What can I do to support you? And I think she really felt that she really received that. Like, wow, she felt really supported by me. And she communicated that to me and at the end of the hospital stay, I really feel like she and I who’ve always had a great relationship that , our relationship just upleveled again to this next level of love and support.

[00:15:00] And here we are, three co-parents that love our children more than anything in the world. And we’re just here to give them what they need in their growth and development to feel love and supported. And I just wanna give our little blended family a little hat tip for how we have cultivated that through the years and it’s really special what we’ve created.

[00:15:30] And you know, I know a lot of blended families don’t have that, or maybe you have aspects of that, but maybe you also have areas where you still really struggle. And so I’m in flow here. So what do I wanna say to that? What I wanna say to that is, or maybe, you know, you’re in a non-blended family, you’re in a nuclear family, but you’re also experiencing challenges with.

[00:16:00] Grandparents or in-laws or, you know, fill in the blanks. You know, every family has their challenges no matter what the family composition. I think sometimes blended families are a little bit like glass houses and it’s easy to throw stones and make judgements and assume things. That’s much harder to do in a non-blended family.

[00:16:27] Because there are less glass walls, typically speaking on a non-blended family. But every family has their challenges and their picadillos and the things that pop up and when that happens,

[00:16:45] I guess I wanna share with you. As I’m flowing through this episode, the message that came through from my higher self several months before the surgery. So to back up a little bit, Sophie graduated from high school in June.

[00:17:01] And she had the surgery in August, and as she was approaching high school graduation, I was starting to have a lot of anxiety and fear and second guessing and doubt about this transition. From Sophie Post high school because she was going into adulthood, and every parent has to face the reality. When your kids graduate and decide to move out of the house, whether they’re going on to college or where, whatever their tr when, whenever, and wherever they transition to and when they leave the nest, you’re faced with the reality that you’re gonna see a lot less of them.

[00:17:45] Now, if they move down the street, you’re still gonna see them quite a lot. But wherever they move, it’s never gonna be as much as when they live under your roof. And the harsh reality that was hitting me was that Sophie never really lived under our roof because we’re blended and we always got the children on their school holidays.

[00:18:04] So we had them periodically throughout the year, and it was really hard because of course we always wanted to see more of them. And now I was faced with this reality that I was gonna go from seeing her not very often to seeing her even less. And it just made me so sad. And it made me second guess everything.

[00:18:25] And it made me second guess my role in all of this. Like what’s the point? You know, what’s my, not like what’s the point, but more like what’s my point and really what’s my role and really do I have a role now? You know, she’s going off to college. She has her mom, they’re super close and. She probably doesn’t need me anymore, was what my ego mind was telling me.

[00:18:56] My wounding was telling me that. So as I started to talk to Higher Self and kind of heal some of these wounds and really explore into the question, what is my role now that she’s transitioning into becoming a young adult? One message I got from my higher self was, take your ego out of it.

[00:19:20] And when the message first came through, I was like, okay, that’s like a message you would’ve given me five years ago. I’m more advanced now. I already know to take my ego out of it. This is what my ego was saying. And I was a little bit annoyed at my higher self that they didn’t give me a more sophisticated or nuanced or futuristic answer that I hadn’t heard before.

[00:19:44] And oh, by the way. That is a reaction. The ego will offer a lot to guidance coming from the divine. So whenever you notice yourself annoyed by guidance coming from the divine, you probably have some wounding or something that needs to be released because when you’re in alignment, you’re never annoyed by what the divine is giving you.

[00:20:06] So I was clearly out of alignment when the divine was coming in, saying, take your ego out of it. But I did listen. And then I found myself feeling a lot better when I was taking my ego out of it and I was surrendering and I was healing any, fear blocks that were popping up or worry blocks that were popping up.

[00:20:28] I was feeling the feels breathing, releasing, and then I just got this intuition that I knew I had a role to play. And that was sort of it, like I just knew the answer, like, do I have a role? I knew the answer was yes, and I just kind of let it be. I didn’t, I didn’t try to figure anything else out. I just let it be at that, and I really focused in on.

[00:20:57] Taking my ego out of it. So when I felt like, oh, what if I don’t have a role? Or, oh, what if there are too many parents at the surgery? You know, uh, too many cooks in the kitchen, right? , Oh, Sophie won’t want me there. Oh, any of the thoughts that came up. I identified it as ego, thoughts and worries. Took some deep breaths, released anything that might need to be released.

[00:21:23] Went back to my heart space. And I just was, I didn’t even really get guidance. It was almost like I knew without knowing. Looking back, I realized that the answer wasn’t going to arrive to me until it was in the moment, right? It was gonna unfold. I wasn’t gonna get a message from Higher Self saying, this is the.

[00:21:50] Answer to your problem. This is the solution. The solution was just going to arrive as I was flowing through life in the moment of whatever it is I was doing. I have that awareness now, but I’m realizing I actually did have that awareness back then, but I didn’t know I had that awareness. I was just doing it.

[00:22:09] So I just took my ego out of it step by step. And when we got to the hospital, you know, I noticed the fear coming up like, I won’t have a role. , Three parents is too many, What if Sophie doesn’t want me there?

[00:22:23] And I just took my ego out of it every time. And then before you know it, a role just unfolded. And it was an important one. It was a simple role, but very important. What was my role? I made sure that they had yummy lunches. I made sure that the, if they needed something from the pharmacy or from wherever I would go get it.

[00:22:49] The room didn’t smell very nice, so I got some nice smelling room refresher, like these little things, the little touches. I checked in on Mariela a lot. Are you okay? Do you need anything? How can I support you? I checked in on Sophie a lot. Sophie, are you okay? Do you need anything from me? And then. This is where it gets really good.

[00:23:17] At a certain point, the doctor came in and said, look. We’ve got options on this surgery. ’cause if we do the full surgery and we remove, ’cause Sophie had, scar tissue on her brain, which was causing the seizures. So the purpose of the surgery was actually to remove that scar tissue. But they realized that the scar tissue was bigger than they thought.

[00:23:42] So the doctor came in and, oh, by the way, he’s one of the number one, , brain surgeons in. The United States, and I think the world, I mean, this guy was an absolute genius and he said. If we remove all the scar tissue, it is almost a certainty that there’s gonna be very, very big side effects. One of them being, not having peripheral vision anymore.

[00:24:11] So not being able to see on the two sides,

[00:24:14] So losing your peripheral vision, that is a huge side effect and that may not be worth it. You know, you may think like having a seizure from time to time is better, uh, than losing that part of your vision. So there were. Make decisions, and this is where I came in, the spiritual person with access to the divine and access to Sophie’s divine guidance team, which of course she has the number one access to, but she was in a lot of fear.

[00:24:48] She was in a lot of discomfort. It was difficult for her to access and to know, well, is it my higher self or my fear talking, or what is it? And that’s where I could come in and be. The Untroubled space to come in and be the guide and offer her the guidance that she needed. And I let her know, look, you don’t have to worry about big negative side effects from this surgery.

[00:25:16] And this was coming directly from her divine guidance team. And of course, I was fearful because I gathered her divine guidance team and I said, Hey, look, this is Sophie and this is her life, and this is her health. And however this surgery shapes out, we are talking about things that are irreversible.

[00:25:39] So if they do the brain surgery a certain way, and let’s say she loses her peripheral vision, she will never get it back. You can’t undo this surgery. Once it’s done, it’s done. These are huge things, so please do not send us down any rabbit hole. We’re already in the rabbit hole, okay? So don’t give me some guidance.

[00:26:05] To give to her to teach her a lesson. She’s already learning the lessons. Just give it to me straight. If we don’t have to worry about these big side effects, just say so or just say nothing. And I’ll just tell Sophie I didn’t get a message on that. But the message coming through very clearly was she doesn’t have to worry about these potential big negative side effects.

[00:26:31] It’s not gonna happen. And I shared that with her, and I just could see just the relief washing over her because Sophie’s a very spiritual person now, had it been my son Alexander, in the same situation, I might not have even, I probably would’ve offered to check in on his guides, but he might’ve said no because he’s not as into spirituality as Sophie is.

[00:26:58] And that would’ve been all a okay. But Sophie asked for it. She wanted it. I convened her guides, I told her guides, give it to me straight. They did. And so far, since the surgery, and it’s been. A couple weeks now. There seems to be no big negative side effect from the surgery she is doing amazingly. She has bounced back.

[00:27:24] She’s back to her old self. She seems to be having, and we don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but as far as we can tell, she’s having a full recovery. The thing that we don’t know is the extent to which the surgery will alleviate her seizures, and so that remains to be seen. But the big thing is, we know, is that there wasn’t any of the big potential negative side effects, and so.

[00:27:52] The two weeks in the hospital were intense and I mostly felt for Sophie ’cause she was going through the brunt of it by a lot it. But it was such a remarkable display of people showing up for the love of their child. And any configuration it wants to look and all three parents taking their ego out of it.

[00:28:22] And there are many examples of my husband doing it. Mariela obviously did it when she introduced me as Sophie’s mom. Can you imagine a bigger example of just taking your ego out of it? And we all just took our ego out of it. And we were all just there for Sophie and we were there for each other. ’cause it’s also about being there for each other as the adults as well.

[00:28:50] It’s not always just all about the kids. You gotta think about yourself too and what you need on a soul level. And so we were thinking about Sophie and we were thinking about each other and just how we can love and support.

[00:29:05] So if you are going through something in life whether it has to do with your family or something else where you’re not sure what your role is, you’re not sure what the value added, you feel like there might be competition or overlap or strife. I’m gonna give to you what my higher self gave to me.

[00:29:29] I know you’ve heard it before, so don’t be annoyed at me. Take your ego out of it and just see what happens. When I took my ego out of it, the big question I had was, what is my role in Sophie’s life? And that answer got so beautifully presented to me in the unfolding of life, and I just got to witness my role playing out in live action time.

[00:30:02] And in a way that actually really satiated not only my higher self, but it satiated my ego. So when I took my ego out of it, I actually made my ego happy. Like, yeah, this is the role I wanna be playing in Sophie’s life.

[00:30:20] So when you get to those crossroads of, I have a question, I don’t know what’s next, take a deep breath release, whatever needs to be released, save a little mantra. Now I take my ego out of it. Deep breath, surrender to higher self and just surrender. Just surrender. Sometimes you don’t even need the guidance.

[00:30:52] Sometimes you don’t even need the message. Just go to the moment and just be, watch your experience unfold. And sometimes the solutions unfold right before your eyes.

[00:31:08] My invitation for you this week is to do just that. Take your ego out of it, surrender to the moment, and watch your experience unfold.

[00:31:21] And that’s a wrap for this 200th episode of Soul Guide Radio. I’ve received so many messages, reviews, emails, dms throughout the years of people saying and sharing with me how much they’ve received from this podcast. And it’s the one place in my business where I show up rain or shine. There’s no place else in my business other than beyond my paying clients.

[00:31:54] But this podcast is the only other place I show up, rain or shine, and sometimes I have to dig a little deeper to be here and I’m always glad I did. I build in breaks. So I have breaks throughout the year built in. But it’s just the place where I really wanna be consistent.

[00:32:19] Every week, every Tuesday, you can count on a new episode from me, only four weeks in August. I do release replays of the best four episodes of the year and different categories, and that’s my four weeks of favorites. Best of series. But that’s still an episode being released every Tuesday.

[00:32:42] I wanna eventually get to where I can release two new episodes a week, but not every week, where I’m occasionally dropping two new episodes in a week. But until I get there and I wanna flow there in alignment following the voice of my higher self and not my ego. So until then. My commitment to you is one episode every Tuesday in your earbuds and thank you, thank you, thank you for all you do to show up and support me and Soul Guide Radio.

[00:33:19] And as always, until next time, may your soul guide the way.

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00:00 Introduction and Milestone Celebration

04:59 Sophie’s Journey

09:45 Reflections on Blended Family Dynamics

15:49 Navigating Parental Roles and Ego

24:31 Spiritual Guidance and Decisions

31:08 Invitation