She Grows with Allyson Scammell
Ep #44: How Getting Cocky is the Secret to Manifestation
Well, hello there. This is Allyson Scammell and today’s episode is quick and dirty. I’m speaking completely extemporaneously off the cuff and I’ll be telling you why. And we’re going to be exploring manifestation. I just spoke to Katie Jones, manifestation coach, a few episodes go. She was fantastic. I totally recommend listening to that episode if you haven’t yet link in the show notes to it.
[00:00:31] And I thought I would continue on this conversation of manifestation. So I’m going to be explaining what I mean by manifestation, how you can and manifest success in your life and business and the secret sauce that has arrived to me over the years. And it just was really brought home to me recently about cockiness and how being cocky.
[00:01:00] And I’m going to tell you what I mean by that, but how being cocky can really help you manifest. Yep. You heard me anything and I’m going to end on a challenge that will knock your socks off. I have no idea what that challenge is because this is quick and dirty. And I haven’t thought that far ahead, but I intend to manifest a challenge that will knock your socks off.
[00:01:25] So you better stick around until then. Welcome to She Grows, a podcast for soul guided women entrepreneurs, ready to be seen and get fully booked using their unique genius, intuitive voice and spirit guides each week. Explore how to create offerings based on what you do best. So you can have a wait list of ideal clients and bring in continuous income.
[00:01:55] I’m your host. Allyson Scammell. Let’s get growing
[00:02:06] well, Hey, there She Grows Nation. That is the name of this sisterhood of soul guided entrepreneurs. And I’m hopping on the mic with just kind of felt called. For this episode to chat with you kind of unscripted, not sure what I’m going to say. Next kind of conversation about manifestation. The big news that I want to share is that I’m moving.
[00:02:31] Again, and if you guys have been in my world for awhile, you know, I’ve moved a lot. If you’re new to my world, I’ve lived in 10 countries on four continents. And just might I say that? Well, not counting the United States, two of those countries, I’ve moved to twice and I’ve lived in different regions of the countries that were quite different.
[00:02:54] So it was almost living like living in different countries. So it kinda makes it like. 10 11, 12 countries a little bit, but drum roll, please. My family and I are moving to the Hague. In the Netherlands and we really couldn’t be more thrilled. My husband landed his dream job with the United Nations, specifically the OPCW, the Office for the Prohibition of Chemical Weapons.
[00:03:22] And it’s really a spectacular opportunity for him. And it was a super long, long, long job interview selection process that at many points in the journey we thought had just been lost, that we didn’t think it was going to happen. And then lo and behold, they called him up and offered him the job. So we’ve only been in Stuttgart for about eight months and we’ve had a fantastic eight months here and we look forward to the next chapter.
[00:03:54] So what does this have to do with manifestation? Well, When you live in 10, but sort of 12 different countries, you live in a lot of different houses. And with each move I got better and better manifesting the perfect residents to live in. And I realized something. And it’s something that I’ve noticed for a time, a long time, that
[00:04:20] When you get really good at manifestation, there’s a certain cockiness. And I like the word cockiness. Not because it’s like an unpleasant arrogance, but it’s more like you’re almost overly confident. You are overly confident the outcome you intend to manifest into your experience will happen. And with that overconfidence, that we can call cockiness, you’re also completely detached to the results because you know it’s going to happen and you know it’s going to happen exactly as you envision it, or somehow it will be better. And when you get into that energy of overconfidence regarding what you intend to manifest, it almost has to come into your experience.
[00:05:16] It literally almost has to, because you are expecting it to arrive from such a confident and clean place. And let me tell you what I mean by that, starting by what I really mean by manifestation and what I mean by that is intending in outcome to happen in your life and aligning your thoughts, feelings, and action to that outcome.
[00:05:45] So you can call it into your experience with intention. So I’m launching a fall program. I want 30 people to sign up for it and intend to manifest an amazing fall group coaching program with 30 signups of a soul sister, ideal clients that, uh, have an amazing energetic connection and that create an unforgettable experience for everyone.
[00:06:12] Okay. So that is something I am creating in my head. I’m imagining it. And whenever I think of an ideal outcome, I get superlative as possible. So what that means is I get as overwhelmingly positive using as many S biggest, best loveliest, most aligned, uh, adjectives that I can conjure up. And I also make sure that the outcome itself is really coming from the heart space.
[00:06:45] It’s coming from the voice of my higher self. And it’s totally fine for your ego to get involved. If you’re someone who likes handbags and you want a designer handbag, that’s ridiculously overpriced, it’s totally fine to want to manifest that. I think that if you’re coming from a place of abundance and you’re coming from a place of integrity.
[00:07:08] And let’s say you want to manifest a good deal and a designer purse. There’s an absolutely nothing wrong with that. So manifests station ideally does come from the heart. And the reason why it’s ideal, because that outcome is actually the most aligned for you. It’s really your soul calling in what it yearns to experience.
[00:07:29] Usually our souls don’t really yearn from a place of deep commitment for designer handbag, but sometimes our soul does want to call in something that maybe the brain perceives as frivolous or not necessary. So it’s always a good idea when you’re creating your intention to really just check into the heart space, allow the vision to really come up, bubble up.
[00:07:57] From your heart, chakra that area at the center of your chest. And then notice your thoughts. Notice if your thoughts are alignment to that vision, to that intention. And sometimes the thought, the ego thoughts, the rational brain thoughts are the ones that will come in and say that whatever it is is frivolous when it’s actually what your heart is really yearning for.
[00:08:24] So you get the superlative vision, right? Then you want to start aligning your thoughts, feelings, actions to it. And you do that by getting a hyper aware of your thoughts. Even those little micro thoughts that squeak in there that may say your outcome could never happen. You don’t deserve it. You’re out of alignment to it.
[00:08:50] And you want to think about the feelings. This is really important. You want to a, when you get your, uh, as you’re calling up your vision, you want to think about the core valued feeling states you see in the vision. What are you immersed in? In that vision of you in the future at as a higher version of your current self, are you connected?
[00:09:14] Are you creative? Are you abundant? Are you free? Are you all of those things? Thanks. And you want to start doing activities and actions today that triggered those very emotions. Again, it’s alignment. You’re aligning your feelings. And then I would say almost equally as important is actions. Think about that future self you, maybe you’re trying to manifest a six figure business.
[00:09:41] All right. Try to imagine how you show up each and every day to manage your business, run your business. Be your business when it is six figures. How can you start showing up as that six figure business owner to day actions, aligning thoughts, feelings, and actions to that outcome. All right. Now, getting to the secret sauce.
[00:10:10] Cockiness or overconfidence detached, detached, because you’re so overconfident, you know, that it’s either going to arrive to you as you envision, or it’s going to be something better. So there’s absolutely no reason to be attached to it. And that’s when manifestation gets really magical when you have absolutely no attachment and you are of complete and utter confidence.
[00:10:40] Well, you might be saying, well, how do I get there? If I’ve wanted something in my life that I’d never seem to be able to well to achieve? How do I get cocky that I’m going to achieve it? Well, my friends. The key to finding your cockiness is evidence. Now don’t go rolling your eyes at me. I know if you’ve been in my world for a while, you’ve heard me talk a lot about evidence, but listen up here.
[00:11:06] I see it so often that people ignore the evidence right in front of them, that they are on track to manifest their dreams because they’re looking for the big evidence. They’re looking for the big proof they’re on their way to six figures that their dream partner is about to show up. That they’re about to move to the perfect city and find the perfect house, but often evidence doesn’t show up
[00:11:36] obviously. It shows up subtly that you are on track or off track because sure. It shows up both ways. And just to say a word about offtrack evidence that show showing up there, it shows you’re off track is just as important that offtrack is just indicating you’re out of alignment. So then you have to say, where am I audit out of alignment?
[00:11:59] Is it my vision? Do I need to adjust my vision is my I’m actually calling you for something else. Is it my thoughts? Are my thoughts really supporting this vision or on myself sabotaging saying it’s not possible. What about my feelings? It’s common to say, like, get up in the morning and say an affirmation.
[00:12:18] You know, I intend to call in a six figure business, but you actually feel in your heart that that’s completely impossible. So the affirmation isn’t triggering the emotions that you want. The emotions of that overconfidence that I know this is going to happen. So how can you truly get into those real emotions of whatever it is you’re going to be feeling when you achieve your or call into your experience, your vision.
[00:12:50] And then of course, is it my actions? Is there some actions that I should be taking or approaching differently to help me, they call in this vision? So the evidence is always, they’re pointing to you, whether you’re on track or off track. And if you are on track, And you’re noticing evidence that you’re on track.
[00:13:11] I want you to honor the little things as much as, as the big things. So, if you get one little comment on a Facebook post from one person and you feel like, Oh, only one person read this thing, I was hoping 500 would, but that one person says I really liked this post. There’s evidence, you’re reaching people.
[00:13:36] You’re saying something right. You’re in the right direction. And certainly if you feel like that person is in the general realm of your ideal audience, be thankful for that comment. Be grateful. Get into the emotion, immerse yourself in the emotion of gratitude for that comment and not lack defeat failure because 500 people didn’t read it and you wanted 500, but you only got one, but she liked it.
[00:14:10] You reached her, you made a difference in her life. You made it shift. You gave her results. That’s evidence evidence often doesn’t come in mass. It usually comes with the one off comment. It usually comes with that subtle little thing. That little note, you received that little feedback you got, see it, feel it.
[00:14:34] Be in the gratitude of it. Gratitude is so important for manifestation because a, it gets you very high vibrational and B it’s that little nod to, I know I’m on track. I know I’m on track to call in what I want to call in. And the more you set visions or higher outcomes in any part of your life, and then start to align your thoughts, feelings, and actions to that vision.
[00:15:06] And the more you do that again and again, and again, the easier it gets, the easier it gets for you to call it in. And the easier it gets for you to get into that cockiness, that overconfidence. So if you’re offering a business offering and you put it out there and no one buys it and then you offer it again, and one person buys it, then you offer it again.
[00:15:29] And five people buy it the more and more you offer it. Always, always aligning thoughts, feelings, actions, always checking in with ideal client. Is this really what you want? Is this really changing your life? Like always making those adjustments, the more your offer it, you’re going to get to a point where you just know.
[00:15:49] From a place of overconfidence that you’re going to get the signups that you want and should something happen, you know, sabotages your business effort. There is a lesson in there for you. It’s all divine. It’s all good. So if you’re a person whose business has been really hurt because of Corona virus, I want you to, to spend a second to see what about, what am I meant to learn from this?
[00:16:18] What am I meant heal from? How am I meant to evolve and spend some time deep time with those questions? They are profound. And when answers start to arrive, And you start to learn or heal or evolve, then go back, go back to your business. What is my like deal client need now? OK, there’s a pandemic. What does she need now?
[00:16:42] And how can my business give it to her? Or how can I do things differently? How can I pivot? I was so inspired by Donald Miller’s StoryBrand workshop that I took in May. And he talked about in his whole business model for StoryBrand, you know, multimillion dollar business is all based on in person workshops was all based on in person workshops.
[00:17:11] That’s what he did. That was his shtick. And he held them several times a year in Nashville, Tennessee. Well coronavirus hits. And within 48 hours, he pivoted his entire business online. And because he’s a master at messaging, he was able to message his people who have come to really look forward to this in person experience with StoryBrand to how they will benefit from an online experience.
[00:17:41] They will actually get more from StoryBrand virtually how it’s better for the client. And he said he only had about two hours of discomfort because he has been doing this for so long and he’s really, really good at messaging. And he really, really knows his ideal client and he was able to pivot from a place of overconfidence.
[00:18:02] And he said that his business is actually growing in 2020. From 2018, he is manifesting this success combined with the right action, the right experience, the right feelings, the right thoughts. It all comes together. But this process. Of manifestation of alignment of getting into that energy of overconfidence.
[00:18:28] It makes it all easier. You’re calling in the ease. You’re saying, I don’t want this struggle. I want as little trial and error as possible. I’m calling in ease and with each move I go through and there have been a lot, I continue to call in ease. I visualize the exact kind of move I want. You better believe I visualize the very exact down to the detail house.
[00:18:56] I want a manifest or apartment, the neighborhood, the nature nearby, all the things that are important to me, the storage space, the kitchen, the appliances, the color, energy of the space, the outdoor space, everything, everything, everything, I call it and I call it and I manifest it with cockiness. Yes, I get cocky.
[00:19:17] And every time. It’s actually better than what I imagined, and this is what I want for you, your life and your business. So get cocky with it. Find that evidence be just as grateful for the small evidence that you’re on track as the big evidence. And my challenge for you actually is to create, spend a minute, deep breaths, deep breaths, pivot down to the heart space and ask your heart, give me a vision that I really need in my life right now for my life, for my business, for whatever I’m letting you decide, heart.
[00:19:57] Give me a higher vision for my human experience, we’ll say. Give me a higher vision, allow that vision to appear whatever arrives, just allow it without attachment and then say, how can I start to align my thoughts, feelings, and actions to that vision. And then every day for the next week for the next seven days, I want you to look for evidence.
[00:20:26] That you’re in or out of alignment. And if you’re in alignment, if you feel like you’re in alignment, I like honor that small evidence of it is small. And if it’s big, that’s great. But honor, the small evidence is showing up that you are on your way and invite in an overly confident energy. Of you don’t care.
[00:20:53] You’re unattached. It’s all good. It’s either going to be your vision or something better. See, you got nothing to lose and you can go ahead and get cocky.
[00:21:09] That’s all I have for you today. My friends and I am so grateful for you. Thank you so much for listening. If you love what you hear. Please subscribe wherever it is you listen. And I would be super grateful with a capital G for a rating and a review. And in the review, if you could just say, mention a few things, things you’ve received from this episode, I’m truly, truly, truly well, appreciate it.
[00:21:37] And if you’d like help calling in your ideal people for your business, then be sure to download my PDF guide that reveals the five visibility blockers that are preventing your ideal clients from finding you your offerings are way too important to remain invisible. Find the link to download the guide on my website, AllysonScammell.com as well as in the show notes.