#2 – 5 Easy Steps to Let Go of Anger and Forgive

Shanti Pax launched a peace process. This is blog #2 of a 10-blog series called, “The Peace Process: Your 10 Most Powerful Actions for Lasting Peace.” These are the top 10 actions you can take to be AT PEACE during your day and ADD PEACE to the world.

Your 2nd most powerful action is to: Forgive

I live in Belgium, which is a world capital of beer and chocolate and also the sight of many famous 19th and 20th century military battles. But how did Belgium go from generations of embittered battles with its neighbors to the peaceful country of beer and chocolate that it is today? I offer one answer to that question along with 5 easy steps to let go of anger and forgive in the travel vlog below:

For more information about forgiveness, check out my previous blog post about my epiphany with Flat Henry.

What do you think? Has being unable to forgive a person or group of people ever robbed you of peace? What have you done to find forgiveness?

Take action!  I challenge you to forgive a person in your life who has been challenging you, or at least to start the process.

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Remember, it’s the little changes you make in your daily life that brings greater peace to the whole.

4 replies
  1. Brennan Smith
    Brennan Smith says:

    The people who I struggle with day-in and day-out are the attention hogs — the divas and the know-it-alls, especially. There are a couple of them in particular who have the ability to trigger me (and often hurt or upset me) instantaneously . . . and frequently. And for a long time, I lived in the belief that I’d just rather hate them than reconcile or heal with them, because it seemed easier.

    My peace process with them kicked off about a year ago (just like you say, with the Intention to Forgive). That got my mind flowing toward the “how” part of forgiving. The first realization was that I AM THEM. Ugh. I’ve been a know-it-all since forever ago, and love getting attention (might even be why I’m writing this!) From there, it got easier . . . but not easy.

    Which is why I love-love-love that you mention that it’s a process, and how normal it is to feel the old hurts over and over, and each time just breathe and release and re-center. So useful, and the health benefits you talk about are spot-on — I spend so much less energy, and generate so much less internal strife over the silly, human bumbles and unintended insults that we’ve all experienced now and then!

    Thanks Allyson. Great reminder, and enhancement, of the forgiveness journey.

    • Allyson
      Allyson says:

      Brennan, I LOVE this comment (and not only because you’re agreeing with me). Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s amazing that you had troubles with those pesky know-it-all’s, because I did too! And it was most irksome when I realized that my know-it-all-ness annoyed me the most! I’ve mentioned an old boss of mine in a few posts, and I have to go through the forgiveness process with her about every 5-6 months and am always so happy/relieved when I do. Again, thanks so much for the comment!!

  2. margaret james
    margaret james says:

    I think you can fight opressions like kidnapping theft and slavery

    Without hating the perpetrator. And fighting for your rights or the rights of others is a loving act. I think the conflicts won in western Europe set the stage for forgiveness of everyday offenses land irritations ike know it all. But I stand firm that fighting for the legal rights of yourself and others against bullies requires action that may appear to be hate but is not. It is not fair to withdraw support for those oppressed by saying if they forgive the bully he will stop.

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